LESSON TWO EXERCISE

Lesson Two is short, but incredibly important.

Our experiences leave various imprints upon on inner psyche and we take those imprints with us as we build the narrative about ourselves, continue through our life and into and out of relationships of all sorts. If we don't take the time to think about our influential experiences a.k.a., stories, and ways in which we were impacted by them, then, as Brené Brown Ph.D., says, "You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness."

Identifying the parts of your story, the parts of you through experiences you've had is a direct-access, backstage pass into your Self. You get to see how experiences were interpreted, what affect they've had on you, and you get to determine going forward, the concert lineup. Sorry, I just couldn't help but keep going with that rock-n-roll theme!

There are 3 parts to Exercise #2. The first two parts you'll do independently without your partner. Page one is all about identifying 3-6 influential experiences in your life and discovering how they impacting you. Page two is about taking those same experiences and asking yourself a couple direct and deliberate questions around them. And the third part, the Conscious Partnering part, is where you'll come together with your partner to share.

Conscious Partnering:

Once you've independently worked through Exercise #2, parts one and two, you and your partner will have an opportunity to share with one another. As your partner is sharing, take notes and write down what you took away from your partner's response. Answer the following for each influence and talk about it together:

How did you observe your partner feeling as they were telling you about their influential experiences? What would it have been like to be in their shoes? Were you surprised to hear their stories?

How can you relate?

Every share the two of you participate in is an inside look into the Self of your partner.