I help women use their most authentic selves to create their most conscious and deeply connected relationships with the partner they already have

Oct 27

And that, my friends, was the longest blog title I’ve ever written. I broke all the rules of writing, but so what? I’m kind of a rebel like that. And I don’t mean that in a hyperbolic way, I’m actually a “Rebel” according to Gretchen Rubin’s The Four Tendencies. Always looking for a way to go around a few rules here and there (and everywhere really).

Why the long blog title? Because it’s a big feat. When you’re ready to dive in and find your most authentic self AND THEN continue that growth, taking your new found self and bringing it into a partnership, that’s a BIG deal. It’s an incredibly powerful process with a lot of empowerment behind it but not without the hard and sometimes heart-breaking work of dismantling old stories, beliefs, and attachment styles and getting to know yourself and your partner in a whole new way.

I Help Women but the truth is I help men too, just as much. Individuals, couples and families, heck, the whole world all gets to feel the benefit of what working toward an authentic self looks like. You can’t have change in a system without it impacting the whole. It’s physics and physics absolutely has a place in systems theory which is what I practice. We can’t change one part of the system without changing the whole thing. But, I say women because usually we’re the ones who either reaching out for help with our relationships or convincing our partners we need to get help. Oftentimes it’s women who honestly hold a lot of power, although untapped, in a system.

Use Their Most Authentic Selves because if we’re showing up any other way we’re cheating ourself out of what it means to be who we really are. Unfortunately there are so many pieces of armor we carry around with us from the ways we were raised, experiences we’ve had, the society that’s built up walls around us, and the narratives we’ve chosen to believe for lack of a better story or the even the knowledge that we could have a better story. These limited beliefs create the patterns we find ourselves in without really even knowing we’re in them.

To Create Their Most Conscious - most aware, most intentional, most meaningful and most in-line with that authentic self. Once you know something, you can’t un-know it. You begin to see change and truth everywhere around you but it can be difficult to walk this walk once you’ve discovered you have a news lens to look at life through. We take the authenticity and examine what life will look like as we’re living authentically every day.

And Deeply Connected Relationship which will now be nearly impossible to not crave after you discover the connection you have to yourself and the truth in who you are. We learn so much about ourselves through the mirrors held up by our partners and they do the same with the mirrors we hold up for them. Yet so much of the time, these reflections become activators or instigators for arguments and conflict instead of opportunities for deep, meaningful conversation, discovery and curiosity. Why wouldn’t you want to share that awesome-ness with your partner?

With the Partner You Already Have because as you begin to look at life with this new lens, you are likely to begin to see your partner with difference as well. I guide people through the process of getting to know who their partner truly is as a human being, who they once were before the labels we all assign to our spouses were put on them.