No amount of compliments, affirmations or reassurances can rescue a person from their own self-destructive story. We’re programmed by our experiences and our biology combined and wired so deeply that while flooding someone with positivity may feel like the right thing to do as a quick pick-me-up, it’s like being thirsty and taking a shower instead of drinking a glass of water.

The ego is an impressive entity. With it comes a lifelong relationship we have with our identity, our shame, our doubt and our judgement. This sneaky little sucker is like the epitome of the worst party crasher. It shows up uninvited, never bringing anything, only taking.

When you’re ready to dive in and find your most authentic self AND THEN continue that growth, taking your new found self and bringing it into a partnership, that’s a BIG deal. It’s an incredibly powerful process with a lot of empowerment behind it but not without the hard and sometimes heart-breaking work of dismantling old stories, beliefs, and attachment styles and getting to know yourself and your partner in a whole new way.

Our shadows, in the context of shadow work, is the space occupied by our subconscious or unconscious self, the part of us that we often don’t want to be just flying around, out there in the public eye. It’s the part of us that we will do pretty much whatever we need to do in order to keep under wraps, under control and certainly holding a tight grip on.